Stump The Abuser
7 Questions to ask in an interview or first date and 7 typical reactions to expect from abusive personalities
“I wish I could put someone through an interview or application process like a job before dating them.” I’ve heard several survivors say. Guess what, folks! You can!
Between my personal experience as a survivor of abuse, decades of working in a public-facing setting, encountering abusive personalities in the general public and the workforce, and as an operations executive interviewing thousands of candidates, I’ve recognized a clear pattern when an abusive personality is stumped.
Warning: This method is not recommended if stuck in an inescapable situation. I caution those who are involved in long-term relationships with an abuser. This will open up a huge can of worms. Only do this on a first date in a public place, a job interview with security close by, or a safe setting!
What’s important is not the answer to these questions or the questions themself. The most important sign is the reaction!
Most abusive personalities lie while answering questions they don’t want to answer. The best questions highlight the inconsistencies of who they are versus what they try to present.
- What was your most recent random act…
